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Re-Creating the World, Part Two

Re-Creating Your Self by Christopher Stone

Almost three years of Re-Creating Your Self columns conclude with this final installment.

Step-by-step, we’ve explained how your strongest-held beliefs about your self, others and the world in general, create your personal reality.  We went on to provide you with the effective tools for changing your false, limiting and outdated beliefs in order to become the person you want to be, living the life you desire. Most recently, we’ve explained how you can go beyond re-creating your self and re-create the world.

CREATING A BETTER FUTURE

We create a better future when, individually and collectively, we understand that the world’s future begins on an individual level, then moves out into society. Our current beliefs have already formed today’s world events and they are shaping tomorrow’s.

We reform society when we fully recognize that society is comprised of individuals, then acknowledge the basic integrity and value of every individual – even when outwardly that goodness and value are imperceptible.

We rid the world of evil only after we identify the true nature of “evil.”  Evil is ignorance – an ignorance that generates fear and pain, and causes humankind to violate the laws of nature, or, if you prefer, the laws of God.

WILL THERE BE A FUTURE?

Are violence and aggression inherent to humanity, making our destruction through war inevitability?

No.

Although we have long believed ourselves to be an aggressive and violent species, and we’ve created world events based upon that false belief, it is not a fact of life. It is a belief, and it can be changed. A Third World War is not inevitability, nor is the nuclear destruction of the planet.

Though many disagree with this statement, I’m supported by the UNESCO-sponsored Colloquium on Brain and Aggression. This colloquium represents the findings of 20 different scientific fields of specialization.

As they put it, “There is no scientific evidence to support the view that, other things being equal, humans will behave aggressively….It is scientifically incorrect to say that we have inherited from animals a tendency to make war; that war or violence is genetically programmed into human nature; that natural selection has favored aggressive behavior in human beings; that we have a violent brain and that war is instinctive.”

To the colloquium’s statement, I add, wars begin in the minds of men, and so does peace. Humankind has created wars according to some very powerful false beliefs, among them, a belief that aggression and violence are instinctive and necessary….a belief that the end justifies the means,,,,a belief that you can create good (peace) from bad (war)….a belief that life is a competitive game, not a cooperative effort.

By changing these false beliefs, we change the destructive and dehumanizing events they create. The same species that created war is capable of creating peace. But world peace is dependent on individual peace. The answer to the question, “Will there be a future?” lies within each of us.

To change the world outside, you must first change the world within.

WHERE TO BEGIN

Start by identifying the social, political and economic conditions in the world that create the most powerful emotional reactions within you. Many times, you react most strongly to global problems that somehow reflect your own personal challenges.

An example: If you’re passionate about environmental issues, look within your self to see if “toxic” beliefs are polluting your inner environment. If so, change your poisonous beliefs and you help change the world. If you would eradicate illness and epidemics, then begin by going within and healing any personal dis-ease.

Do you desire an end to world poverty and hunger? You won’t create planetary abundance by denying your self what you need and want. Love and be generous with your self. Satisfy your own positive needs and desires, and you will automatically, naturally help others fulfill theirs.

If your goal is world peace, then make the attainment of personal peace your first priority. Let it flow outward toward your neighbors, your country and your world.

Virtually, everything depends on you, the individual. If you are not re-created, then the world cannot be either, because the world is simply the sum total of individuals in need of re-creation.

Can you change the world for the better?

Yes!

In fact, you already have. In a way that is both meaningful and real, you began re-creating the world, when you started Re-Creating Your Self.

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Re-Creating the World, Part One

Re-Creating Your Self by Christopher Stone

As I write this column, grim headlines are daily reminders that the world sorely needs re-creating if it is ever to be the kind of place where we can healthfully, happily and peacefully live the life that we desire.

Our times have witnessed some of the world’s worst fears realized: wars, terrorism, problematic climate change, catastrophic oil spills, and economic recession, among other atrocities. Yes, we’ve experienced the frightening and tragic consequences of humankind’s most negative beliefs made physically real. It hasn’t been pretty and it’s far from being the best of what we’re capable.

World events continue to raise classic questions on a daily basis: Is science a savior or a saboteur? Is the price tag for continuing economic growth the very destruction of our planet? Is humankind defenseless against personal illness and global epidemics? Are aggression and violence innate ingredients in the nature of man, making war an inevitability? What will the future bring? Even more to the point, does humanity have a future, or will aggression and greed lead to our final destruction?

Over the years, these questions have troubled my students, friends and family. Perhaps you have similar anxieties about things to come. One of my students, a young woman who dropped the Re-Creating Your Self course mid-stream, put it this way, “Things are going from bad to worse. What’s the point of re-creating my self in a world that seems bent on destruction -an other-created world that strongly believes in poverty, disease and war – a world that doesn’t value the individual or the planetary environment? The situation seems hopeless.” My best effort notwithstanding, I was unable to convince this student not to give up on herself, or the world.

Later that same week, a teenaged student approached similar feelings in a more positive manner. “My parents came of age in the 1960s, and they believed they were going to change the world,” he told me. “Looking around now, I sometimes feel helpless to make the world a better place. It’s so big, and such a mess. But I’m not ready to give up. Though I don’t share my parents’ innocent optimism, I still want to try and make a difference. Is there anything I can do to help re-create the world?”

My answer was an emphatic, resounding and unqualified, “Yes!”

TOGETHER WE CREATE THE WORLD

You – the individual – can most definitely help re-create the world. In truth, you are even now contributing to the creation of the world you know.

Let me explain: Through Re-Creating Your Self, you’ve learned how we create our personal experiences in line with our beliefs. Together, we create world events based upon our most powerful mass beliefs. The world outside our windows is the cumulative result of the world within all individuals. It’s a physical replica of humanity’s combined inner beliefs and strongest expectations: a mirror of what we believe ourselves to be at any given time. Because the world outside reflects our inner development, as we are re-created, it is re-created.

You not only perceive and participate in your personal experiences, you create them. Likewise, you not only observe world events, you help to shape them. Your personal beliefs, and the private and shared experiences they create, help form the world you know.

The beliefs of every individual, along with the emotions and expectation they produce, move out into society through mental and physical actions, coalescing to form world events. Everything that exists in the outer world is created first in the inner worlds of individuals.

Briefly, the process works like this: The beliefs of the individual create his personal experiences. The basic ideas of all individuals in a household come together to form their shared experiences. The prevailing beliefs of individual households merge to create what exists in the neighborhood. The predominant ideas of the collective neighborhoods determine what happens in a country. And the most powerful beliefs of individual countries combine to create world events.

But everything begins with the individual and his or her personal beliefs. It always has – and it always will. The private choices you make every day extend outward, affecting you, your household, your neighborhood, your country and the world. This is not meant to make you feel blameworthy or guilty for the woes of the world. It is meant to empower you.

The future of the world will not be decided by political, religious or scientific systems. It will not be determined by God, the stars or karma. For better or worse, the future of the world will be decided by the personal choices that each of us make – and we will make those choices based upon our personal beliefs. Therefore, if you want to take part in successfully re-creating the world, the first and most meaningful step is to re-create your self.

A Re-Creating Your Self Thought: The individual can, and does, make a difference in the world.

Coming October 1: This column concludes with Re-Creating the World, Part Two.

Have a comment, observation, or question about Re-Creating your Self? Please send them to me at recreatingyourself@mail2teacher.com.

Copyright 2010 by Christopher Stone

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Re-Creating Your New Self

Re-Creating Your Self by Christopher Stone

As I pointed out, last time, when it comes to personal development, and most probably to most areas of your life, you can learn from everyone, and from everything, but there is no better teacher than your personal experience.

As you transition from the false, negative and outdated beliefs, the ideas you described much earlier in your My Now Self Adventures in Inner Space, into the re-created you described in your Blueprint for Personal Change, you will see an acceleration in what you are capable of learning from your every experience. Perhaps this has already entered your experience. If it hasn’t already, it will happen soon.

As you come into acceptance of your new beliefs, you are literally transformed from the other-created person you wrote about in your Re-Creating Your Self Notebook, into the self-created individual you described in your Blueprint for Personal Change. Your new, positive beliefs, reflecting truth, not falsity, unlimited and up-to-date, will create better personal experiences in all areas of your life, automatically attracting other positive beliefs in the process.

Over the years, students have asked me, “How can I reconcile your Re-Creating Your Self philosophy with my strong Christian beliefs?” To them, I point out that numerous Christian scholars claim that Jesus performed His “miracles” by casting out “evil spirits,” that these same scholars also interpret as “false beliefs.”  There is nothing to be reconciled between Christianity and the principles and processes of Re-Creating Your Self. The two philosophies are compatible and harmonious.

If you’ve followed this process faithfully, then your re-created self is, indeed, new and improved – as Madison Avenue might put it. However, your re-created self is never perfect. Knowing the rules of a game, you will better play the game, but this doesn’t mean that you’ll ever achieve a perfect score. Similarly, knowing the rules of the game of life helps you to re-create your self, living a more fulfilling, healthier life. It doesn’t mean you’re going to become the perfect person.

In truth, “perfection” doesn’t exist in the physical world; it’s an illusion. Think about it. Perfection implies completion. – Something that is finished and done. Check your dictionary: Perfection is a level of accomplishment beyond which there can be no further development and improvement. Thank goodness, no such “perfection” exists in this world.  You really wouldn’t want to be perfect, finished and done, beyond further development and growth, would you?

Life engages you in the process of continually becoming more your self. For as long as you’re alive in the material world, you’re never done and finished – you never reach a point beyond which there can be no further development and improvement. Instead, you are changed somewhat by every action, by each experience. Becoming better tomorrow than you are today is always possible. This process is endless, and it’s up to you to make it endlessly exciting, beneficial and fulfilling.

Even as you become the person you want to be, the new self you described in your Blueprint for Personal Change, you will automatically, naturally outgrow some of the goals you had set for your self; you will seek even higher levels of expression and achievement. Possibilities for further growth, development and creativity always exist, no matter how lofty your present accomplishments.

I’m always re-creating the latest edition of my new self, and I’m always laying the foundation for further development and growth. Much of this foundation setting for future accomplishment is accomplished on the metaphysical, not the physical, level.

A Re-Creating Your Self Thought on Perfection: Many people are obsessed with achieving perfection; we call these individuals perfectionists. Some so-called perfectionists make themselves ill, both physically and mentally, in their pursuit of “the perfect job,” the perfect spouse,” or even “the perfect house.” The quest for perfection almost always ends in disappointment. That’s because the very concept of perfection is an abstract ideal toward which we strive; it is not an obtainable goal.  In truth, we never reach perfection; at best, we move closer to that abstract ideal.

Although perfection is an abstract ideal, and not an obtainable reality, there are times when you may believe that “this job,” or “that lover,” is perfect for you. In truth, the job or the lover may be “perfect for you” at the point in your life that it has come into your experience. Chances are, after a period of time, as you develop and grow, and as the impetus for fresh challenge kicks in, “that perfect for you job,” or even “that perfect for you lover,” may be outgrown.

How about you? Are you going to be fulfilled, satisfied becoming the new self you described in your Blueprint for Personal Change, or will a never-ending impetus toward development and growth make that new self “old hat” even before you’ve completely achieved your goals?

Coming September 1: Your Best Self.

Have a Re-Creating Your Self comment, observation, or a question? Please send them to me at recreatingyourself@mail2teacher.com

Copyright 2010 by Christopher Stone.

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Your Best Teacher

Re-Creating Your Self by Christopher Stone

If you are open to learning, then you can learn from virtually everyone and every thing.  Often others teach us what we aspire to become.  Other times, our teachers are poster children for the kind of individuals we dread becoming.

Teachers are everywhere: at home, in the movies, in our classrooms and churches, next door and across the world.  They are everything: a person we meet by chance, a book we read, a lecture we attend.  Teachers populate television, seminars and work-shops, the restaurants in which we eat and the medical offices we visit.  Your next teacher may be the postal carrier who returns to your mail box at the end of the day because he forgot to deliver a piece of your mail.  Regrettably, your next teacher may be the condescending sales-woman at Saks who doesn’t understand your relationship: you represent profit and she represents overhead.

Yes, our teachers are everywhere, but I believe that personal experience is your best teacher and the only acceptable criterion of truth. It must take precedence over all outside authority, conventional wisdom, secondary testimony and cultural tradition. Many of you feel the same way. That’s why Re-Creating Your Self is structured in a manner that allows you to prove the validity of its principles for your self: first through the “Adventures in Inner Space,” sprinkled through these columns; then through your personal experience as you apply these ideas to your life.

When you ask, “How does life work, and what makes things happen?” Re-Creating Your Self answers, “You create your life in line with your beliefs.” From an infinite number of possibilities, you create your personal experiences according to your belief system. Seeing your beliefs manifested as physical events, you learn about your self.  This is the philosophy of the physical world as “idea construction.” As your beliefs change, so do your experiences, Changing your beliefs regularly, you can re-create your self over and over again. You learn new things about your self; and, by doing so, you grow and develop further.

Understanding that you create your experiences, for better or for worse, and knowing that you can alter them by altering your attitudes, may change your life even before you accept your new beliefs. This is a self-empowering philosophy, as well as one that’s stood the test of time. However, successfully re-creating your self requires that you do more than acknowledge the value of these principles.

If you would become that person you want to be, living the life you desire, then you must use these principles as well as acknowledging their value. You must directly apply this knowledge to your life. That is wisdom, dear readers – using what you know to be true to benefit your self and others.

Tragically, some people never use what they have learned to help themselves, much less others. They may spend time, energy and money buying and reading self-help books, attending lectures and seminars, and going from one guru to another. They acquire knowledge, and then they put it on a shelf, like a movie awaiting release. You may have been one of those people in the past. If so, then you can change that right now.

The tools for personal change, explained in previous columns, will help toward that end. They will assist you in using what you have learned. Use these valuable tools regularly and your personal experiences will continue to improve; you will eventually achieve your goals. If you use these tools erratically, on a hit-and-miss basis, you’ll produce hit-and-miss results.

Re-Creating Your Self students have frequently asked me, “Of all the tools for personal change, which are the most important?”  Automatically, instantly, I reply, “Loving your self and thinking for your self!” When you love your self, you understand that you are inherently good and eminently deserving of the best life has to offer, Then – and only then – do you begin creating the best of everything, When you think for you self, refusing to permit the limiting attitudes of others to determine the boundaries of your own experience, then you are capable of creating your heart’s desires.

A Re-Creating Your Self Thought: Granted, studying is an important part of the learning process, but it is through personal, hands-on experience that we master a subject. For example, would you want your car’s transmission replaced by someone who’d read about the subject, but had never replaced a transmission? Or, for that matter, would you undergo brain surgery from someone who’d only studied the subject without ever having performed such an operation?

Coming August 15: Re-Creating Your New Self

Have a comment, observation, or question about Re-Creating your Self? Please send them to me at recreatingyourself@mail2teacher.com.

Copyright 2010 by Christopher Stone

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