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by May McCarthy

Can you remember the last time that you reached a goal or something turned out the way that you wanted it to? I imagine that you felt happy, grateful, and even powerful. I want everyone to experience that feeling more often with less of the work to get there. I know that we live in an abundant universe and all of us can learn to create the lives that we love by incorporating more gratitude into our lives along with the use of simple spiritual tools.

I decided to write my latest book, The Gratitude Formula: A 7-Step Success System to Create a Life that You Love after spending the last 5 years traveling the world teaching goal attainment systems to corporations and thousands of people. What I learned is that many people feel that big success is unattainable; that there’s a secret others know that they don’t. I want you to know – that’s a lie.

Success is a system, not a secret. The same system applies no matter the size of the goal.

Anyone can use a simple system for success to achieve whatever they desire in life. If you want harmonious relationships with others or to have that special someone to share your life with – you can have it. If you want terrific health in a pain free energetic body – you can experience that, too. If you want fulfilling and satisfying work or a full bank account and the freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want – that can be yours. And, if you desire a deeper spiritual connection with an all-knowing power in the universe at the source of your intuition and ultimate advisor – you can enjoy that experience as well.

You’ve already proved how powerful you are in using systems for success. Remember learning to read, or ride a bike, or drive a car? You used a system for success to master these skills. And, what about typing on that strange keyboard that’s not even in alphabetical order? Maybe your mastery of that skill now allows you to type faster that I can talk. You have already proven that you know how to succeed. The Gratitude Formula shows you how to achieve even larger goals in seemingly miraculous ways. The best part is that it’s really simple and gets easier to do over time – just like reading or driving a car.

I’ve proven that this success system works in growing seven companies to as large as $100 million in annual revenues and being led to great and perfect health after being diagnosed with cancer. Each goal that I created was bigger than the last, and I achieved them. You can too! Success is a system, not a secret. The most important step is to make the commitment to use the daily system.

The Gratitude Formula shares the importance in using spiritual and practical tools along with the practice of gratitude to magnetize you to receiving more of what you desire in life. As Oprah Winfrey said, “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” As you use the system outlined in The Gratitude Formula, good things will multiply in your life!

There are three important elements of this system for success:

  1. Hold a daily goal planning meeting with the source of your intuition, who I affectionately refer to as the Chief Spiritual Officer or CSO. In your daily planning meeting, use powerful word statements that describe your goals as completed with gratitude. Write down, speak out loud, and imagine what you want, not what you don’t want. For example, I know a saleswoman who often says things like, “I really hope that I’m not late for my appointment with ABC Company on Tuesday.” Most likely, she’ll be late for her appointment because that’s what she’s focused on. A better way to phrase that would be, “I’m so grateful that I am always on time or early for my appointments and easily facilitate a fair exchange of value with my customers.” With statements like those, she might feel inspired to check the traffic report or get ready earlier.
  1. Make what you desire familiar and welcome into your life by learning more about other people who have achieved the kind of success you desire. This shifts your beliefs to possibility which is required to achieve any goal. For example, a man named Harold wanted to be a successful real estate agent in Southern California. In the first eight months of his new job, the few clients that he worked with ran him ragged for very little money in commission. Harold couldn’t rationally see how he could ever be a successful, well-paid agent with great clients, and started to consider other lines of work. But before he gave up, he committed to creating new goal statements and using them in the daily practice as part of his system for success. He described his perfect clients and his desired amount of money with gratitude as though he had already achieved his goal. He also took steps to make the success that he wanted welcome by reading about the journeys of successful real estate agents and going to networking events to meet some of them and hear their stories. As he did his daily practice and met other successful agents over several months, his beliefs shifted. Harold started to believe that it was possible to experience the same kind of success. He didn’t know how it was going to happen; he waited for his CSO to illuminate possibilities through intuitive leads. A short time later, he got a strong thought to call surfing shops and corporations who had surfers as part of their executive teams to see if they’d like him to come in and speak for free about the risk-taking characteristics that surfing and business have in common. Since he had been a competitive surfer, he could discuss that topic. He was invited to several places to speak, met lots of new contacts, and received a substantial increase in business that surpassed his original goal. Make what you want welcome to shift your beliefs to possibility.
  1. Watch for intuitive thoughts, gut feelings, and signs throughout the day, and have the courage to take the steps that you are guided to take. This builds confidence so that you can manifest your goals sooner. As Harold got the intuitive thought to call surf shops and corporations, he “had courage to follow his intuition” as Steve Jobs advised. Remember, if you don’t feel comfortable taking the step that your CSO gives you, just ask for another lead. Eventually, when the same intuitive message has repeated itself over and over, you’ll feel more confidence in taking the step. There are dozens of stories in my book that will illustrate how you can recognize your intuition as a spiritual success tool to achieve greater levels of health, happiness, abundance, and freedom.

The Gratitude Formula fully explains all of these elements and will show you how to use them to achieve more of your dreams. I’m so excited about the wonderful experiences that will soon be yours as you make a CHOICE to use gratitude as part of your system for success and create the life that you love! I’m grateful for you! For more information about me and my work, please visit www.maymccarthy.com.


About the author:

May McCarthy is a successful entrepreneur, investor, business strategist, speaker and author. For the past 32 years May has used sound business practices and spiritual principles to grow several successful multimillion-dollar companies. Now, she travels the country and teaches people how to use these same principles in order to help them achieve greater levels of financial abundance, success, and freedom!


How to benefit from gratitude

by Sabbir Muslim

There is one tried and tested method to change a negative mindset into a positive one. Gratitude practised on a daily basis gradually switches the preoccupation with what is wrong in our lives to what is right, which paradoxically then attracts more good things.

When there is a mindset of lack and desperation for an external outcome to fix a situation, the outcome will be suffering and distress.

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An antidote for the excessive craving and often negative nature of the ego mind is to cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Gratitude dissolves the dense negative thoughts and emotions that block our connection to a higher power. The resulting consciousness vibrates with the qualities of wholeness and of both being and having enough. Such a powerful energy vibration magnetically pulls positive people, places and situations towards us.

One person I was helping would often moan to me how much she hated her job. One suggestion I offered was to e-mail me a daily gratitude list of at least ten points. After some weeks of doing this I saw on her gratitude list that she was grateful to this same job enabling her to pay her bills and warm her flat.

A friend of mine with diabetes who does daily gratitude lists told me he used to hate doctors, especially when they told him how he should be eating. His attitude has now shifted so radically that he is not only grateful for his medical treatment and insulin but that he can now eat the way they suggest.

By practising gratitude I now appreciate my near-death experience at age 30 when I had acute kidney failure along with a heavenly spiritual experience in my hospital bed. Even though it led to the loss of my job and the disability of daily dialysis it allowed me to focus on spirituality and developing an authentic positive life.

Start to write a daily gratitude list to receive the positive benefits.

Writing a daily list of ten things you are grateful for, irrespective of whether or not you actually feel grateful or indeed even want to write anything.

You may find that as the days and weeks pass you become increasingly appreciative and develop a contentment, along with a sense of being taken care of. The key is to commit to writing every day.

The gratitude list might range from the ordinary to the miraculous. Be as precise and as specific as possible.

For instance, today I wrote I am grateful that:

I am developing a happier vibration, which will attract good people and circumstances to me.
Today I was aware of the sunlight on the oak tree by my window.
The health of my body.
My caring parents.
The birds chirping in my garden.
I have a roof over my head.
My faith is growing.
I have a comfortable home.
The universe is taking care of me.
My loving connections with friends.

About the author:

Sabbir Muslim is a spiritual teacher, coach and the author of Bulletproof Peace 30 Spiritual Secrets of Peace and Happiness. He brings a unique approach to spiritual teaching with a meditative and contemplative approach to guide people to be their authentic self and access higher intuition, happiness and miracles. His purpose is now to share with others how to transcend their limited identifications to realise their limitless self and live an authentic life of love and higher purpose.

Bulletproof Peace, 30 Spiritual Secrets of Peace and Happiness is available on Amazon.

His videos can be found at

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Gratitude Helps Strengthen Relationships

Just in time for Thanksgiving, leading couple therapist Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, and author of Wired for Love and Wired for Dating, discusses one of the key ingredients to a healthy relationship – cultivating gratitude. Dr. Tatkin encourages partners to use this time of year to embark on a new path toward relationship growth and success.

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Cultivate gratitude

Among Dr. Tatkin’s 10 Commandments to a Secure-Functioning Relationship is: Thou shalt gaze lovingly upon thy partner daily and make frequent and meaningful gestures of appreciation, admiration, and gratitude.

Gratitude is the opposite of misery. That is why miserable people are never grateful. Their glass is always empty. Finding gratitude is inextricably related to reality as we are always getting more than we are giving if we really do an honest daily inventory. The human being is a selfish animal. People are always aware of what they are not getting and become angry, resentful, envious, and deprived. An exercise based on Naikan, a Japanese meditation practice to engender feelings of gratitude, details that if each partner was to do an honest inventory of what they have received from their partner, what they’ve given, and the trouble they’ve caused their partner, a feeling of gratitude would likely emerge.

A Harvard Mental Health Newsletter reported on a study of couples which found that individuals who took time to express gratitude for their partner not only felt more positive toward the other person but also felt more comfortable expressing concerns about their relationship. “Thanksgiving is the perfect time to pause and reflect on what you’re grateful for in your life. You thank others for little courtesies, but do you thank your partner? If not, it’s quite simple to do so. Make daily gestures of appreciation, admiration and gratitude to your partner,” explains Dr. Tatkin.

Dr. Tatkin has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA and is best-selling author of Wired for Love and Wired for Dating. Dr. Tatkin and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, are cofounders of the PACT Institute. They travel the world training therapists in their unique approach to couple therapy. The Tatkins also provide Wired for Love and Wired for Relationship retreats for couples and individuals. Learn more about Dr. Tatkin at http://www.stantatkin.com.

About Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, has a clinical practice as a couple therapist in Calabasas, CA, and is an assistant professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, founded the PACT Institute and lead therapist training programs in cities across the United States and around the world. Tatkin is the author of three well-received books about relationships—Wired for Dating, Wired for Love, and Your Brain on Love—and is coauthor of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

About the PACT Institute
The PACT Institute is a leading global organization that offers training for clinical professionals in a method designed to help secure-functioning relationships flourish. The Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT) draws on more than three decades of research on developmental neuroscience, attachment theory, and arousal regulation. Since 2008, the PACT Institute has trained more than 1,000 practitioners across North America, Europe, and Australia and has expanded the training to three levels. PACT has gained a reputation for effectively treating even the most challenging couples. For more information visit http://www.thepactinstitute.com.

Source: http://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/in-praise-of-gratitude


Gratitude: Helping Our Children Count Their Blessings

monisha vasaBy Monisha Vasa, M.D.

A perspective of gratitude is one of the greatest gifts we can offer to our children.  Gratitude gives children a more thankful attitude as they move through life, improving their overall happiness and well being into adolescence and adulthood.  Fortunately, encouraging gratitude in kids does not have to take lots of time and effort.

Here are some “Get Grateful Quick” strategies to try with your family:

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  1. Make gratitude a family affair:  Children learn by imitation, and are more likely to learn from what they see us do, rather than what we tell them to do.  Make it a point to incorporate gratitude into your daily routine as a family.  For example, start by telling your children what you feel particularly thankful for as you drive them to school in the morning, or tuck them into bed at night.  They will naturally follow suit.  Moments like these become opportunities for connection and conversation, and help to encourage a daily practice of being thankful.  It is important not to force the issue if they are not immediately interested.  Just continue articulating your own gratitude; you will still be demonstrating an important idea that they will absorb over time.
  2. Make gratitude tangible:  It can help children to be able to visualize the idea of gratitude, in order to make it a more concrete concept for them.  For example, a fun idea for children is a “Happy Jar.”  As a family, write down on a piece of paper what made each person feel particularly happy that day.  Fold the papers up and drop them into the jar.  They can be taken out and shared at the end of a week, month, or year, as a way to remember all of the pleasurable moments that were experienced over time.  Other ideas include reading children’s books that foster gratitude, or creating a gratitude journal together.
  3. Make gratitude simple:  It is helpful to remind our kids that we can be grateful for the simplest of things in life.  For example, we might point out a particularly sunny day, a delicious strawberry, or a good grade at school.  Although these might seem like simple every day occurrences, the act of noticing the small pleasures in life can help to cultivate joy.  We want to teach our children that we often take important blessings like running water, food, and even our health for granted.  We also want them to learn that, although we can be grateful for “big” moments like trips to Disneyland or a special birthday party, that most often, a meaningfulgratitude practice comes from paying attention to the beauty in ordinary moments.

It can be challenging to learn concepts such as mindfulness, compassion, and gratitude as adults.  Encouraging these behaviors from a young age can help provide a strong foundation for our children.  The fundamentals of resilience and well being begin in childhood.  Let’s help our children, and ourselves, by sharing the importance of gratitude in creating a happy, healthy life.

About the author:

Monisha Vasa, M.D. is a board certified General and Addiction Psychiatrist in private practice in Orange County, CA. Dr. Vasa is the author of the non-fiction children’s books, My Dearest One and Saying Thank You. She is also a marathon runner and a student of yoga and meditation. Learn more about Dr. Vasaat http://monishavasa.com/ and read her blog on The Huffington Post.