Planning Your New Self, Part 2sam
Re-Creating Your Self by Christopher Stone
Through your exploration of Re-Creating Your Self’s first Inner Space Adventures, you’ve already achieved greater self-awareness and understanding.
Congratulate your self. Job well done.
You’ve defined your now self for your self. You’ve identified your good and your bad qualities, your current abilities and limitations, what makes you happy and peaceful, and what evokes sadness and anger.
You’ve discovered many of the beliefs that create the life you know as your own, and you’ve traced the sources of those beliefs, learning that many of them were first accepted blindly from others, without your careful scrutiny.
You have examined and evaluated your beliefs, distinguishing the principal from the supporting, and the positive from the negative.
You have proven your ability to change by listing the negative beliefs you have already discarded.
You have analyzed your self, revealing your present ability to trust your self, and to express your individuality.
These accomplishments are impressive, and what you’ve learned about your self thus far will help you to re-create your self as the person you want to be, living the life you desire.
YOUR NEW SELF
It’s time to start planning your new self in earnest: Please begin the process by reviewing your belief system. That includes a review of all of the beliefs you’ve listed in your Inner Space Adventures. Be certain to re-read the self-description you wrote in the My Now Self Adventure. It, too, reflects your beliefs about who you are and the nature of selfhood. As you read your self description, ask your self, “Do I still agree with what I wrote about my self in this Adventure?” In other words, upon review, does a belief that you labeled as “supporting” back then, now appear to be a “principal” belief? If you described your self back then as having “more than my share of faults,” do you still belief that rather harsh self-appraisal is true? Do some beliefs that you first evaluated as being “positive,” now seem “negative” or “outdated?” Now is the time to make changes as necessary in your previous Re-Creating Your Self Adventures.
During this review, you may well identify additional beliefs that escaped your scrutiny previously. You may even find entirely new categories of beliefs. In each case, ask your self, “From who did I first accept this belief?” “Is it a ‘principal’ or a ‘supporting’ belief?” “Is it ‘positive’ or ‘negative’?” “Does it represent an ‘outdated’ attitude?” Update your lists to include all new information. After completing this review, pat your self on the back for holding the positive beliefs about your self, others and the world in general, that appears on your lists.
Now, turn your attention to the beliefs that you labeled negative and outdated. Have you already begun to change any of these limiting attitudes since you first identified them? If the answer is “yes,” then you’re easing down the road to Re-Creating Your Self.
If the answer is “no,” please don’t be discouraged, or feel in any way diminished. The very fact that you’ve identified beliefs that require changing represents personal progress. Please give your self credit for having the courage to accept responsibility for your actions.
In either case, your goal is to discard the remaining false and self-limiting beliefs, as well as the outdated attitudes. This requires that you reject, once and for all time, the philosophies that contradict your inherent goodness and value, all of the ideas that limit your potential for achievement, health, happiness and prosperity – in other words, all of the beliefs that are separating you from being the person you want to be, living the life you desire.
Some of the ideas that must “go” may be among your earliest and strongest beliefs about your self, others and the world in general. Nonetheless, if these ideas are limiting the good you are able to create in your life, then “off with their heads” it must be, or you will fail to progress.
A Re-Creating Your Self Thought: At this juncture in the process, more than a few RCYS students have pleaded emotional turmoil in finally admitting that they must release powerful false and negative beliefs accepted in early childhood from parents and other authority figures. In most cases, they feel that rejecting these harmful ideas is in some way disrespectful to family and other loved ones. I do my best to soothe these students. Many of the second-hand ideas they accepted were given to them by well-meaning, but unenlightened, people, who automatically passed down tbeliefs they had also accepted blindly – without examination, and not based on their experiences.
This explanation most commonly makes it easier for people to move forward in a guilt-free, healthy, positive manner.
Next Up: Your Blueprint for Personal Change.
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Copyright 2009 by Christopher Stone