A Question of Happinesssam
Are you cyclically confused? In a ceremonial quandary? Completely clueless? Wonder no more.
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by ©Mama Donna Henes, Urban Shaman
Dear Mama Donna,
If someone put a curse on me for me to never be happy. How can I change that and make him forget me?
Unhappy in Utah
Dear Wanting to Be Happy,
You can change that by being happy! I know that sounds simplistic, but it is true. You and only you are responsible for your own happiness. If you are not contented in your soul, no one else can make you happy. Conversely, if you are happy in your heart of hearts no one and no situation can rob you of that inner joy.
We can’t control so much in our lives. We are enormously affected by the weather, the economy, the political climate, the vagaries of global relations, and the actions of others. The impact is enormous, but none of it is personal. It is not about us.
The one thing that we can control is our own attitude and our own perceptions. You see, you can decide to be happy. No matter what.
This is your choice. You can choose to maintain your balance, your spirit, your soul center, in tact no matter what circumstance you may face.
Or you can give it away and let someone else steal your happiness. It is not a matter of getting him to forget you. It is a matter of your forgetting him and taking back your power to create your own happiness.
Vicktor Frankl, a survivor of the German death camps, wrote about the seeming impossibility and necessity of keeping your inner equilibrium, no matter what. He said that the Nazis — that anyone — could take your possessions, take your liberty, even take your life. But no one can take your spirit or steal your humanity. It was this attitude that helped him to withstand the unthinkable.
I never would have made it if I could not have laughed. It lifted me momentarily out of this horrible situation, just enough to make it livable.
– Viktor Frankl
So take heart, my dear. Allow yourself to feel pleasure and joy and humor and lightness of being. Make your inner joy a sacrament to share with everyone you meet. The happiness you share will be returned many fold.
Make up your mind to be happy and I guarantee you that you will be.
*Are you cyclically confused? In a ceremonial quandary? Completely clueless? Wonder no more. Send your questions about seasons, cycles, and celebrations to Mama Donna at cityshaman@aol,com.
Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, ritual expert, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed Ezine and writes for The Huffington Post and UPI Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.
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