A Question of Griefsam
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Ask Your Mama, The What, When, Where, Why, How, and Who of Ceremony & Spirituality by Mama Donna Henes, Urban Shaman
Dear Mama Donna,
A man I dearly loved died this past weekend. When you share a spiritual love with someone and you have made a commitment to be together in the next life and for eternity, is this soul with you? I am at a loss. It is like half of me has died too.
Grieving in Minnesota
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your pain is palpable and my heart goes out to you.
In my fairly extensive experience with death, I have learned that relationships do not end when a loved one dies. Love absolutely survives the physical plane, and the intensity and intimacy of your love will live in your heart for the rest of your life.
There are many views about what awaits us after our life on Earth has ended. But one thing is for sure: There is life after life in memories.
We live on in the lives that we touch. We live on in the lives of those who loved us. No one is dead until they are forgotten.
Reach out to friends and share your memories, stories and feelings. Talking to and listening to each other compassionately and supportively can be very powerful.
Your profound connection with your darling will continue. Your dear love will surely come to visit you in your dreams and meditations. You will be reminded of him in many different ways, some obvious and some subliminal. And there are bound to be certain serendipitous occurrences that will keep that connection alive and charged.
When you think of him, acknowledge and allow yourself to feel your sadness for his loss, but also express gratitude for his life, for his impact on your life and for the love you shared.
Have faith, my dear, and keep your heart open to chance and to the omens that tell you that he is with you.
I send you blessings of solace,
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Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, ritual expert, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed Ezine and writes for The Huffington Post, Beliefnet and UPI Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.
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